推荐一本书

hughyoyo

家中有儿有女，或许我是妈妈，教女儿驾轻就熟，但对于新生的儿子，我感到非常陌生。因为每每和孩子的爸爸争吵，我都觉得他不可理解。我在女儿的幼儿园发现了这本书，读完后才明白男人和女人的想法不同，教育女孩和男孩的方法也有不同。今天把这本书买回来了，推荐一下，希望对大家有用。
steve Biddulph << Raising Boys >>

花生

谢谢分享！

hughyoyo

载录本书的一些观点和大家分享。
Early childare is not good for boys

If at all possible, a boy should stay home with one of his parents unitl are three. Childcare of the institutional kind  -  creches or childcare centres - does not suit boys' nature under this age. Many studies have shown that boys are more prone than girls to separation anxiety and to becoming emotionally shut down as a result of feeling abandoned.

飞儿

原帖由 hughyoyo 于 2008-3-15 00:54 发表
载录本书的一些观点和大家分享。
Early childare is not good for boys

If at all possible, a boy should stay home with one of his parents unitl are three. Childcare of the institutional kind  -  crech ...

谢谢分享！

我们本来从哥哥去的这个幼儿园借了这本书来，但我还没来得及看就还掉了，因为哥哥暂时不去了，半年到一年后再试。

看了这段话，偶又多了个借口暂时不送哥哥去幼儿园了，呵呵。auntie至少还可以在这里呆上一年左右，届时哥哥三岁了，弟弟也快两岁了，两个都去幼儿园最好，再请个钟点工做家务，相信能应付得来了。。。

当然，觉得什么年纪送幼儿园，不论男孩女孩，还是要看个案的，就是要看小孩本身的适应程度。。。

Mylittlelover

我也发现了在身边的人中, 男孩去CHILDCARE普遍适应期要比女孩儿要长, 而且在CHILDCARE大哭一整天的经常是男孩不是女孩...... 原来是有理论依据的. 谢谢lz分享.

hughyoyo

我认为第一章是本书的精华，是关于男孩成长阶段的划分和谁在起决定作用：

In the years between birth and six, boys need lots of affection so they can learn to love. Talking and teaching one-to-one helps them connect to the world. The mother is usually the best person to provide this, although a father can tke this part.

At about the age of six, boy show a strong interest in maleness. and the fath becomes the primary parent. His interest and time become critical. The mother's part remains important . however, and she shouldn't back off from her son just because he is older.

From about fourteen years of age, boys need mentors - other adults who care about them personally and help them move gradually into hte larger world. Old societies provided initiation to mark this stage , and mentors were much more available.

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