非常近不惑，诚心征友，文友可，聊友亦可

Alethea

I’m nearly 40 years old and my kids are still in the primary school, actually I do not think it is easy for me to find a man to establish a new family because I am not young any more but my kids are still so young…sometime I do feel unhappy about my personal life…

When I was a teenager, I had been happy if you tell me I am full of strength and determination. While I am in my forties, I am panicky when you tell it to me…From my experiences of 40 years’ life, I do not think it is a good thing for a woman to have too much strength and determination that most time are the main reasons why her marriage is not very successful, because no man can tolerate the woman with a strong mind for a long time. On the other hand, I think if she was born with a strong mind, then the woman must pay more attention to learn how to respect others and how to express her idea in a gentle way, otherwise her strong mind is just a disaster for her and the people close to her.

Sometime I feel so lonely in the downtown area…I even want to phone a stranger to have a chat when I am free. Have you got the same feeling? If you are happy to share the life stories with me, you will be more than welcome here. Do not worry about something you said properly or not, as a true friend, just say what you want to say, just be yourself and speak out your real opinion. In the reality, seldom people can talk with you with their heart. I hope we could say something from the cockles of our heart in this virtual memory…

hellsky

i give 7.5

Alethea

i did get 7, hehe.

老本

enjoy what we have.

cherry_melody

很棒的英文，先赞一个！

kukulaya

不管多烦躁，愿楼主都能保持一个乐观开朗坚强的心。自己是宝，孩子也是宝，家里那么多的宝贝，快乐足以自给。

白雲山民

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tkoz

is there any chance to get this in Chinese? English test? IELTS or TOFEL....

Robbie2018

就我这英文水平看懂还有点困难，谁能翻译一下？

widelink

Wǒ jìn 40 suì, wǒ de háizimen réngrán zài xiǎoxué, qíshí wǒ bù rènwéi wǒ zhǎodào yīgè rén, yǐ jiànlì yīgè xīn de jiātíng, yīnwèi wǒ bù niánqīngle, dàn wǒ de hái zǐ huán zhème niánqīng, hěn róngyì ...... Yǒushí wǒ juéde wǒ gèrén de shēnghuó bùmǎn...

Dāng wǒ háishì yīgè shí jǐ suì, wǒ yīzhí gāoxìng, rúguǒ nǐ gàosu wǒ, wǒ chōngmǎnle lìliàng hé juéxīn. Suīrán wǒ shì zài wǒ 40 suì, wǒ dāng nǐ gàosu wǒ, cóng wǒ 40 duōnián de shēnghuó jīngyàn...... Kǒnghuāng, wǒ bù rènwéi tā shì yīgè nǚrén yǒu tài duō de lìliàng hé juéxīn de hǎoshì, dà bùfèn shíjiān shì Wèishéme tā de hūnyīn yě bùshì hěn chénggōng de, yīnwèi méiyǒu rén néng róngrěn xīn qiáng de nǚrén, hěn zhǎng yīduàn shíjiān de zhǔyào yuányīn. Lìng yī fāngmiàn, wǒ xiǎng rúguǒ tā shì jiānqiáng de xīntài chūshēng de, nàme nǚrén yīdìng yào gèngjiā zhòngshì xuéxí rúhé zūnzhòng tārén, yǐjí rúhé zài yīgè wēnhé de fāngshì biǎodá tā de xiǎngfǎ, fǒuzé tā jiānqiáng de xīntài shì, tā zhǐshì yīgè zāinàn Hé rén jiējìn tā.

Yǒushí wǒ gǎndào hěn gūdú, zài nàoshì qū...... Wǒ shén zhì xiǎng dǎ diànhuà gěi yīgè mòshēng rén liáotiān shí wǒ. Nǐ yǒu tóngyàng de gǎnjué ma? Rúguǒ nǐ hěn gāoxìng yǔ wǒ fēnxiǎng shēngmìng gùshì, nǐ huì bǐ zài zhèlǐ huānyíng. Bùyào dānxīn nǐ shuō de zhèngquè de dōngxi, zuòwéi yīgè zhēnzhèng de péngyǒu, zhǐshì shuō nǐ xiǎng yào shuō shénme, zhǐshì zìjǐ, shuō chū zìjǐ de zhēnshí yìjiàn. Zài xiànshí zhōng, hěn shǎo rén kěyǐ gēn nǐ yòng zìjǐ de xīn. Wǒ xīwàng wǒmen kěyǐ shuō zài zhège xūnǐ nèicún de dōngxi cóng wǒmen xīnzhōng de há...

kukulaya

１０楼强大……

zhu12

还是把精力放在孩子上吧。

Alethea

刚刚才找到我的这个铁，原来被搬到这里来了。

我从来都不知道送拼音如何带4声，你很强啊，如何做到滴？

Alethea

要向更好的照顾孩子，首先要保证自己身心健康。

得了忧郁症的单亲妈妈是不乏其人的。

CNAUUS

原帖由 Alethea 于 2012-8-1 14:30 发表
I’m nearly 40 years old and my kids are still in the primary school, actually I do not think it is easy for me to find a man to establish a new family because I am not young any more but my kids are  ...

坚强的心，顽强的性格，不会伤害到任何人，包括你的家人，但是，如果你用了一个错误的表达方式，错误的言语，言词，强硬的面目表情，你不但达不到你的目的，反而引起他人的烦感，抵触，甚至是毫无理由的，不理智的，坚决的站到你的对立面上去，只是因为你说话的方式。
中国女性大多都不太会和自己的亲人说话（尤其是北方女性），有关这个事情我记得好像有个台湾人专门写过一篇文章，
我没见过一位中国妻子会这样和自己的丈夫说话：  亲爱的，能方便帮我拿一杯水么？谢谢！     见到的都是这样：哎，给我拿杯水！
中国女性很多都是把客气的话，礼貌的话，温柔的话，说给外人听，说在家庭以外的任何场所。
就是不愿意和自己同处一室，朝夕相熟，同床共枕，亲人，爱人说……
给楼主推荐一本书  《人性的弱点》  也许你看过，看过就在看一次。如果没看过，也许你会从书中有些启发……
祝愿楼主好运！

frankmanzhu

Sometime I feel so lonely in the downtown area…I even want to phone a stranger to have a chat when I am free.

我承认我要去面壁...........把downtown看成了down

单亲妈妈带小孩不容易，加油！

顶帖专用

楼上的太坏了。。。

kuxxc

原帖由 frankmanzhu 于 2012-8-8 16:08 发表
Sometime I feel so lonely in the downtown area…I even want to phone a stranger to have a chat when I am free.

我承认我要去面壁...........把downtown看成了down

单亲妈妈带小孩不容易，加油！

"in the downtown area".... it can indeed be interpreted as such. Hilarious! (but harmless, so please don't mind)

On a serious note, I wish you luck lz.

glen

Life is always good to learn something new and change more or less ...

[ 本帖最后由 glen 于 2012-8-13 07:57 编辑 ]

缘2012

Do not think too much! Life is not always wonderful as we know. You can just be yourself and let your self feel happy. Do what you can do, then enjoy it. Look after yourself well first, then you can take care of your kids and others! Then you will become the most charming person. Everyone is unique!

Sometimes couples want to be single, unfortunately they can not,for some reasons.

Try to be healthy and happy everyday! Thanks for what you have got.

Good luck!

[ 本帖最后由 缘2012 于 2012-8-12 20:35 编辑 ]

mk82

不就是想找人聊天么， 会中文不？ 我陪你聊天

jason_hillside

Hi Alethea

I'd like to be your pen friend.  We can talk through Email.  jason_hillside@y7mail.com.  talk to you soon.

Alethea

"it can indeed be interpreted as such" Are you serious? Sounds like your English is very local, thanks for your teaching.

[ 本帖最后由 Alethea 于 2012-8-14 13:47 编辑 ]

Alethea

THANKS and My mail address is sydneylady5@hotmail.com

Alethea

I cannot type Chinese at moment, while your Chinese is more than welcome here.

Alethea

there is a famous saying from  Qian Zhongshu: The green people want to enter into the city state, (a few months or a few years passed,) someone wants to escape from the city state.

I heard someone who only has one marriage all his/her life potentially admires the others, who have 2 or 3 marriages. On the opposite, someone who divorced extremely admire those stable families which can last long enough to let kids grow up.