Life work balance

pinkscooter

I took one year materntiy leave and then went back work as part time ever since.
My daughter is 22 months now, and my boss just asked me to come back full time from March this year.

I feel very sad because I will spend less time with her and not able to take her to the playgroup, swimming lessons, and playground any more. 555555!
I tried to find anothr part time job but no easy due to the market condition.

I will try to negociate work 4 days a week instead of 5 days.

Do you have any other better ideas? I feel very guilty not able to spend as much time as before with my daughter.

Really need help from JMs here.
Astina, Max_Jay, Xuan Mu, Chinara, where are you?
Many thanks

旋木

在目前这种情况下，能找到份FULL TIME的理想工作不是那么容易呢，MM不要轻易放弃。
今天下午得知我们公司也开始裁人了，被裁的这个本来下个星期就过完试用期了，没想到还是躲不过噩耗。
听到公司的决定后，她立马就哭了，家里2个孩子，没有老公，还有负担不小的房贷，马上面临的就是卖房，搬小屋。。。。看她那样，我心里特别不好受
回到正题，MM和孩子天天朝夕相处了22个月，在心理上肯定是割舍不下的，好在孩子到了可以去上幼儿园的年龄，反过来想想，你就算不离开她，她很快的也要离开你了啊， 孩子大了，总归不能天天带在身边的。
MM不要内疚了，你如果带到22个月都内疚，那我怎么办？小L3个月时我就回来FULL TIME上班了，还一周5天

pinkscooter

Thanks very much , Xuan Mu. are you still at work or already home? Just read an old article of yours about "happiness", very beautiful stroy.

My daughter started Daycare from 15 months only 2 days per week, then increaed to 3 days a week when she's 18 months.

I just about to chat with Ye duo ma tonight regarding the 2nd baby. Too many things going on, need more inspirations from JSs here.

Thanks

旋木

我已经下班回到家了，小L正在和他爸爸游泳，我偷空上网

1008ml

我也能理解你的心情。使者和你老板商量一下吧，我想他会理解的。一星期上四天班也不错啊。我也是在我家宝宝三个月时就上班了，做的是part time 的，每天三点半下班。确实失去了很多陪小孩玩的机会，但是觉得很充实。有时也自责，陪孩子的时间少了，但事实是不能两全其美阿。现在我还想转成一星期上4天，休一天，这样就可以抽出一天全天来陪宝宝了。是啊，现在能有一份满意的工作不易，搂住不要轻易放弃。加油。

pinkscooter

Already home by 5:18pm !???!!!!

Just curious to know, you finish at 4 or 5? Or maybe you live close to work.

What's for dinner? Who is cooking?

Lucky you!

pinkscooter

Thanks 1008ml.

Does anyone know how to type Chinese without download special software as I am using company's PC.

旋木

现在已经6.35了啊，是不是你电脑上的时间不对？
下午4.30半下班，5.15到家
今年起家里请了个保姆，要不然我完全没时间陪小L，时间都花在做饭，洗衣， 打扫卫生上了。
所以我正式从美食版消失了:)

pinkscooter

To Xuan Mu:
Maybe I shoud ask this question in Career section.

When do you start in the moring? Still very lucky, you can finish at 4:30 as Purchasing Manager and get back home in 45 minutes.

How old is L by the way? (i am new to this websit)

旋木

原帖由 pinkscooter 于 2009-2-5 18:37 发表
Thanks 1008ml.

Does anyone know how to type Chinese without download special software as I am using company's PC.

用INPUT KING， www.inputking.com, 在线输入，不用安装软件

旋木

原帖由 pinkscooter 于 2009-2-5 18:45 发表
To Xuan Mu:
Maybe I shoud ask this question in Career section.

When do you start in the moring? Still very lucky, you can finish at 4:30 as Purchasing Manager and get back home in 45 minutes.

H ...

这也是为什么我今年5月就可以拿到LONG SERVICE LEAVE的原因了，永远不加班，工作时间是早上9点到下午4点半。
小L今年4岁半了:) 在上幼儿园，明年读KINDY

pinkscooter

Thanks Xuan Mu. I am going home now.

I work 9-7 on Monday and 9-4 on Wen & Thur.

See you!

Why i still can add 'fen fen"/???:

旋木

原帖由 pinkscooter 于 2009-2-5 18:54 发表
Thanks Xuan Mu. I am going home now.

I work 9-7 on Monday and 9-4 on Wen & Thur.

See you!

Why i still can add 'fen fen"/???:

不客气
MM是在哪个行业，为什么要工作到7点？
加油，脱了草鞋就可以加分了

1008ml

to xuan mu :purchase manager?  which industry?

xingbu

旋木好忙啊

旋木

原帖由 1008ml 于 2009-2-5 21:46 发表
to xuan mu :purchase manager?  which industry?

都快成工作帖了
MM也是同行吗？

第一名

原帖由 旋木 于 2009-2-5 18:04 发表
MM不要内疚了，你如果带到22个月都内疚，那我怎么办？小L3个月时我就回来FULL TIME上班了，还一周5天

那怎么一样，你那是巴不得赶紧回去上班。。。

第一名

原帖由 旋木 于 2009-2-5 18:38 发表
现在已经6.35了啊，是不是你电脑上的时间不对？
下午4.30半下班，5.15到家
今年起家里请了个保姆，要不然我完全没时间陪小L，时间都花在做饭，洗衣， 打扫卫生上了。
所以我正式从美食版消失了:)

管他现在几点，你反正5点多就到家了

保姆要是做饭好吃，一样也可以混美食版嘛

旋木

原帖由 叶多妈妈 于 2009-2-5 22:09 发表


那怎么一样，你那是巴不得赶紧回去上班。。。

干吗把我的阴暗心理暴露于阳光下

第一名

LZ看来中文reading club要泡汤了

第一名

原帖由 旋木 于 2009-2-5 22:13 发表

干吗把我的阴暗心理暴露于阳光下

不久的将来，你会不会发个正好相反的贴，抱怨天天在家没劲？

旋木

原帖由 叶多妈妈 于 2009-2-5 22:17 发表


不久的将来，你会不会发个正好相反的贴，抱怨天天在家没劲？

不知道呢，劳碌命，没怎么在家呆过，就连周末两天都是恨不得往外跑

vikki

女儿2个半月的时候我就回去上班了，上了一个月的PART TIME，之后转回FULL TIME，刚开始感觉不是很好，之后就习惯了！现在经济危机，保住份工作是首要的啊！
不过我今天刚刚跟经理顶嘴了，他实在是太讨厌了，我真是装也装不出个好态度来！

xjyoyo

旋木怎么请到保姆的啊？是钟点工还是住家的？看来我也努力多赚钱，将来用个保姆，因为我不喜欢做饭，天天都为吃什么头痛。

旋木

原帖由 xjyoyo 于 2009-2-6 00:05 发表
旋木怎么请到保姆的啊？是钟点工还是住家的？看来我也努力多赚钱，将来用个保姆，因为我不喜欢做饭，天天都为吃什么头痛。

发广告在报纸上找到的，住家工，周一工作到周五。
我用EXCEL做了每周的菜单，她按照上面的菜式做。

JuliaBear88

原帖由 1008ml 于 2009-2-5 21:46 发表
to xuan mu :purchase manager?  which industry?

want to know too.

第一名

原帖由 旋木 于 2009-2-6 00:10 发表

发广告在报纸上找到的，住家工，周一工作到周五。
我用EXCEL做了每周的菜单，她按照上面的菜式做。

每天多少钱？

旋木

原帖由 叶多妈妈 于 2009-2-6 08:10 发表


每天多少钱？

每周$400， 包吃住

pinkscooter

I work 3 days a week. As I have to pick up my daughter from Daycare on Wen and Thur, so I have to leave at 4pm those two day. I work to 7 on Monday to make up the hours.

One good thing about this company is they provide Flecible Working Arrangement.

I guess I will work 4 days a week from March, and I still want to set up a Mandarine Reading Club (story telling). But may have to have that on every other Friday.  (I go to a playgroup on Friday ).

pinkscooter

Thanks all the JMs here to help me make this decistion.

It is very important to keep your job in this crisis.