带我女儿怎么那么累，好想大哭发泄一下。

northwind79

同意LS的。我不会刻意控制自己的脾气。我就是要孩子知道妈妈也是有脾气的，不要以为全世界的人都跟他姥姥奶奶似的就知道哄着他。现在我只要很严肃的说话他就知道要听话。

快乐龙宝

楼主你怎么跟我一样呀，我女儿也超级任性！每天吃饭就要逼着吃，就那么讨厌吃饭么？饿过她也用了，还是不管用！儿子呢超级好，给什么就吃，反正带儿子比带女儿轻松。。。然后每次说完女儿，我晚上就有点自责，在想她还那么小，是不是过分了点，咳。。。很想随她去了，但是营养跟不上我就很着急！她体制也不是很好，就爱吃肉，不爱吃蔬菜！这也得赖我妈了，那时候她才1岁多一点就给她吃什么红烧鸭肉红烧肉，我挡都挡不住！所以孩子坚决不要给老人带，我妈每次说过来看孙，结果都她主场了，就噼里啪啦跟我吵架，反正为了孩子，再骗我过来看孙也不行了！我现在也是处于真不知道如何是好的阶段，骂过呢她又不会记住，我自己还要自责，但是不骂呢，就压根不听你。。。还说儿子难带，我怎么觉得女儿才难带呀。这个贴不错，一起发泄发泄，哈哈

vivifeng2000

是不是老二都比老大好带，更乖贴心。我身边朋友的老二都是又乖又贴心的。

绮丽儿

vivifeng2000 发表于 2015-7-23 10:04
是不是老二都比老大好带，更乖贴心。我身边朋友的老二都是又乖又贴心的。 ...

因为老大这个教材在，每次看到老大做错事被骂挨罚，起到了杀鸡儆猴的效果，看在眼里记在心里的老二还怎敢造次？老二这样的位置往往就是冷眼旁观在一边看戏，戏码就是老大狂哭妈妈震怒拉拉扯扯一顿教训

草场

terry11 发表于 2012-5-11 14:07
大宝以前这样
自从上学
变狠多

真的吗？我天天时时吼大宝，5岁多了，都快高血压了我，小宝7个半月不哭的，但现在也开始多动了！两儿子，我也天天指望着他上学会好些

aileenshao

wcmhnmay 发表于 2012-5-11 14:01
我家的也是天天吼. 如果她正在做或准备去做一些不对的，捣蛋的事情，你阻止她，好好跟她说，讲道理，根本没 ...

我家10岁的还这样呢。男孩,以前爷爷奶奶带,哭死!

aileenshao

快乐龙宝 发表于 2015-7-23 07:46
楼主你怎么跟我一样呀，我女儿也超级任性！每天吃饭就要逼着吃，就那么讨厌吃饭么？饿过她也用了，还是不管 ...

不管儿子女儿,一般老二都要好带吧

wcmhnmay

aileenshao 发表于 2015-7-24 09:29
我家10岁的还这样呢。男孩,以前爷爷奶奶带,哭死!

哈哈，老帖翻出来了！看到信息提醒才知道以前在这帖子里诉苦过。
时间过得好快，现在女儿好懂事听话我都想不起以前抓狂的感觉了。 加油！妈妈们！

拙泥

anotherone 发表于 2015-7-22 20:25
我记得以前看过一个资料，这个时期的小孩也是在利用皮的方式试探父母（或者往大了说是这个世界）的底线。他 ...

There are two key factors in a child’s obedience. Firstly, the child understands that her parents have authority over her. Secondly she has self-control enough to obey her parents when their request and/or command is against her own desire.

To lose control of your own emotion will undermine your authority over the child, because she knows that it is wrong to snap at or yell at others (At least you would want her to know). For an older kid, the problem has now become “ I have a crazy mum” rather than her  own behaviour problem.

Regarding the second point, I do not think you can teach a child self-control by losing control of yourself first.

candyjmy

eva1115 发表于 2012-5-11 19:39
是有两个小孩才会这样，需要用吼的，俺家小的才一个多月，打这个小的出生后才发现对和老大再也不能好好说了 ...

我家女孩4岁半，弟弟4个月，情况一样。
我们逗小的，姐姐就捣乱，而且超级皮，不听话。这是她妒忌了，要引起我们注意。
只能多陪她，带她玩，每次都夸她懂事等等，她才会收敛些。

candyjmy

绮丽儿 发表于 2015-7-23 10:11
因为老大这个教材在，每次看到老大做错事被骂挨罚，起到了杀鸡儆猴的效果，看在眼里记在心里的老二还怎敢 ...

说的太对了！

anotherone

拙泥 发表于 2015-7-24 17:45
There are two key factors in a child’s obedience. Firstly, the child understands that her parent ...

那你说应该怎么办？有时候好好说她不听，不理她她也根本不在乎的，还能怎么弄？

拙泥

anotherone 发表于 2015-7-25 06:25
那你说应该怎么办？有时候好好说她不听，不理她她也根本不在乎的，还能怎么弄？ ...

Very good question, but unfortunately I do not have an answer... It is such a complicated issue!

I guess it depends on how unacceptable her behaviour is to your principles.
I normally starts with a request "Would you like to ...?"  or " Shall we...?". Often he would agree, like packing up toys. When he does not, I may use a command if I think it is important enough and would force it if it is an "right and wrong" issue (e.g. Once he was being unfriendly with a child at the playground, I had to take him away from that spot).
I try to minimise my "No"s and give him plenty of freedom to explore. But at the same time when I do day 'No' I try to carry it out.
By no means pretending to be an expert. Just would like to suggest that we may think outside of the box as some of the 'easy' and 'effective' discipline methods would bring more issues in the long run.

龙宝顺利

我家的是只要我在家了吃喝都要我喂，之前外婆在的时候倒是自己吃，难道我太宠了？