当男人这样说的时候代表了什么？(27/5更新事态发展）

cashwood

当男人对你说，如果我们分手了，还可以是朋友吗？ 这代表了什么？

我问他，是不是想跟我分手，他说不想，可是后来又加了这一句，代表什么？

Poppy123

其实他的真正想法只有他自己知道，
他当时到底怎样想的确实不得而知，
要结合你们的相处情况，
当时的情境以及他的心态，
你自己觉得呢？

daniello

隐藏了很不堪的想法

YugaYuga

玩够了，要撤。

XUGANG1996

分手继续做炮友

coco

犹豫

bosstong

相信自己的直觉妹子，找一个把你捧在心上的人。

bluesky

分手了还要做朋友，可能是他想分手后继续暧昧，需要是还要找你。

冰咖啡

分手了就是分手了，说明缘分已尽了，Move on

cheapers2003

我瞎猜的。
他星座是两个小动物。爱琢磨，心思细腻，但会优柔寡断。
他变了。

cheapers2003

我瞎猜的。
他星座是两个小动物。爱琢磨，心思细腻，但会优柔寡断。
他变了。

Rainbows

他不想继续了

xiaoxiaomt

不要花时间在这种举棋不定的人身上。

cashwood

事情起源于此，我第一次去男友家跟他父母見面，他們之前看過我们的照片，说想見我，所以我就去了。在他們那边住了一個星期。回家後他媽叫他姑媽打電話给我姨，説不喜歡我，还说绝对不让我进门。我立刻问男友怎麼回事，他说他也不知道。那天晚上他再沒联系我。第二天他说跟他父母谈过了，主要说我矮，因為他很高。我问他怎麼辦，他也不知道。然後就跟平常一样聊天，后来他说了一句can we still be friends if we break up. I didn't answer him. I just ask him if he love me, he said he do. And then I asked if he want to break up, he said he didn't. And then we said love to each other as usual and go to sleep.
In the next afternoon he said sorry and we can't have future,  well i supposed it means breakup.  
I am very angry becos he gave up on me. Two days after i stop talking to him, i wrote him a really long letter saying that he'sweak and 懦弱。and he played me

cashwood

Actually before i send they letter he told me he missed me,  luv me and want me back.
After he got the letter he said he's really hurt and angry.  And he never lie or play me.
Then i told me, i don't want to breakup with him, if he feel the same then we can work things out together.  But he didn't reply till now.

Last night his dad called saying that he didn't talk to them for the past week, just go to work and after home keep staying in his bedroom.
his meaning is that to tell me to let go first and saying that his son will suffer for a while but will recover soon.

I am really confused now, my mum asked if my bf tell his dad to make the call as he didn't reply my last message yet.

I am not sure what should i do now. I really need advise. Please help

彤彤

妹妹，分手吧， 这男孩不成熟，婆婆太强势，看看论坛里的婆媳贴就知道了， 有的婆婆至少在结婚前对媳妇好， 结婚后才变脸的。 你“婆婆” 对你相当不满意。 还能7拐8拐找人电话你妈， 够极品的。 跟他， 你妈妈也受罪。 想想结婚后，你婆婆一句话， 你就会被离婚， 如果有了孩子， 对孩子更不公平。 找个够爱你的成熟点的男人吧。

PShshuo

这样的BF不要也罢吧。。。立场太不坚定了。。。

98765

move on

Poppy123

cashwood 发表于 2013-5-27 10:35
Actually before i send they letter he told me he missed me,  luv me and want me back.
After he got t ...

MM还是放手吧，强扭的瓜不会甜！
他如果真的爱你，不会因为这些莫须有的原因分手。

melon

算了吧，也不要生气，谈朋友是可以分手的，结婚了还会离婚呢，在一起的时候也是大家自愿的是不是，他给了你明显的信号要分手那就分手好了，不要过分难过和生气！

cashwood

he kept telling me he didn't want to break up, then i asked him y he broke up with me if he didnt want to. he said it is because he dont want me to be unhappy. because his mum really dont like me, if i do be with him, i may suffer from many gossip behind my back and i may cant bear it and become frustrated.
and he dont want me to be become like that. that's y he choose to break up.
But in fact he really love me and want to be with me.

七月

cashwood 发表于 2013-5-28 02:36
he kept telling me he didn't want to break up, then i asked him y he broke up with me if he didnt wa ...

这恰恰是你现在应该let go原因: 如果他在还非常爱你的情况下都能被其母左右而割舍和你的感情, 你还能指望婚后爱情变淡, 他能坚持他的立场么

gary.smith

分手了可以继续上床，没别的意思

红领巾

lz不是已婚吗，怎又出来个bf？
http://www.oursteps.com.au/bbs/f ... read&tid=650254

彤彤

红领巾 发表于 2013-5-28 11:40
lz不是已婚吗，怎又出来个bf？
http://www.oursteps.com.au/bbs/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=650254 ...

你很可爱哦，现在的年轻人， 谁会等结婚后才叫老公老婆的阿？

chriswxy

Just let him go.

皮皮鲁

彤彤 发表于 2013-5-28 21:44
你很可爱哦，现在的年轻人， 谁会等结婚后才叫老公老婆的阿？

她帖子里说和老公结婚才几个月

彤彤

皮皮鲁 发表于 2013-5-28 22:01
她帖子里说和老公结婚才几个月

有个老公，就不能再有个男朋友么？




估计楼主是编贴逗我们玩的。

心理咨询

well, i really want to help you. but unless you are honesty with us, no one can.
i remember answering your post 3 months ago
http://www.oursteps.com.au/bbs/f ... read&tid=650254
i cannot piece your story back together, because the  trajectory of your relationships does not seem normal.  three months ago you just got married and now you have a boyfriend? is it the same man you are talking about?
let's assume that you were married 3 months ago, and now you are sperated with your husband and are in a new relationship with your current boyfriend, the boy friend you talked about in this post.
it is a BIG problem that you,without reflecting what went wrong in your previous fleeting marriage, has jumped from one relationhsip to another where you found yourself unsatified again. this is enough to pay a visit to a psychotherapist.

you are in great trouble, young lady.  there are as many serious problems in the way you see yourself in the relationships as in the way you handle them.i do not wish to see you travel from one relationship to another not being able to maintain a satifactory intimate relationship.

hilltop-bear

大家还是说中文吧，那些中式英文看得我头大啊