好书推荐： STICKS AND STONES:7 Ways Your Child Can Deal With Teasing, Confilct, and O

无敌妹妹

儿子3岁了，一直为如何教育他而困扰，太严厉，怕把他管的太死板；太松，又无法教给他正确的是非观。怎样把握这个度教出自信而又不自大自私的孩子呢？无意中看到别人的网页推荐了一本书《STICKS AND STONES:7 Ways Your Child Can Deal With Teasing, Confilct, and Other Hard Times》，读了两章后，觉得真的是一本很好的书，解答了我的很多困惑，在这里想跟大家分享一下。

下面我做了些读书笔记，个人感觉这本书绝对值的一读。

首先，来段里面的育儿理念，我看了后是深受启发。由于个人翻译水平有限，所以只摘录原文，不译成中文了。

As parent we basically want two things for  our childen: We want them to be happy and do good. The biggest influence on their happiness is what they believe about themselves. The optimal belief we can give our kids about themselves is that they are fundamentally good -- no matter what. The optimal belief that we can give them about doing good is that doing good is always right -- no matter what. But if we carelessly mix these two beliefs, for example, by insisting that our children are good only when they do good, we set them up for a lifetime of turbulence and insecurity. Even when they do good, they may be doing it not for the simple sake of doing the good that nedds to be done -- but rather for then sake of being able to feel good inside.

Make no mistake about it, it's vital that we teach our children clear rules of right and wrong, and that we maintain high expectations with respect to those rule....

未完待续...先去陪儿子了。