Should I keep her as a friend?

jodansam

I have known this girl for a number of years even though we are not that close, we kept in touch. A while ago she moved in the area after they bought a house that is quite close to us.

We fixed a few play dates with each other because we have children that are similar age. The first time I invited her to our house and she stayed for about an hour but she spent half an hour playing her I phone in our place, chatting to her other friends on weichat. She then rushed her to see her Other friends. I felt she was very disrespectful and I talked about this to my husband and he said' maybe she just see you as someone close so she feel comfortable to do that. So I thought maybe I was reading into it too much.

The second time she asked to come and we had a nice time without her playing on the phone. The third time however she was doing the same thing again and she had some negative comments about my children even though it was subtle. We are going to see quite bit of each other because our children are going to the same school. I don't really want to be friends anymore but it's a bit awkward as we will see each other again....

What would you do? Am I being over sensitive?

coeur

LZ是不是发错版了？

jodansam

coeur 发表于 2014-10-24 23:53
LZ是不是发错版了？

Oh, it's the wrong section? Is it why nobody is saying anything? Anyway what do you think of my situation?

蚝

coeur 发表于 2014-10-24 23:53
LZ是不是发错版了？

嗯，而且发错论坛了

yuxuanlin

没有发错，遇到就问句你好，其他什么都不需要再做，也不需要多考虑。

不是每个熟人都可以做朋友，相互来往的。保持距离，才有美感。

cocowhite

智能手机害人没朋友啊

jodansam

yuxuanlin 发表于 2014-10-25 12:41
没有发错，遇到就问句你好，其他什么都不需要再做，也不需要多考虑。

不是每个熟人都可以做朋友，相互来往 ...

Thanks for your reply, it really helps.

中间人

now楼主can you解释一下你为哪样要type english here。no time install 中文输入for us readers？

I feel 你是非常的 disrespectful and I talked about this to my wife and 我们决定不理睬你了。

jodansam

中间人 发表于 2014-10-25 13:48
now楼主can you解释一下你为哪样要type english here。no time install 中文输入for us readers？

I feel  ...

It's not my intention to offend anyone, I don't have Chinese input on my phone, that's why I am using English.

tinaking666999

楼主英文太好了，连手机都是英文版的，我一拿到手机就换中文版。

大牛哥

多交些同类朋友吧，比如西女妈妈

JessieW

君子之交则可

jodansam

大牛哥 发表于 2014-10-25 15:29
多交些同类朋友吧，比如西女妈妈

Thanks for your suggestion. I happen to have 2 good friends that are western women and they are actually really helpful. They often offer to look after my children when I really need to do something independently. My best friend is still a Chinese woman though. So I think it really depends on the person.

agent_lithium

tinaking666999 发表于 2014-10-25 15:10
楼主英文太好了，连手机都是英文版的，我一拿到手机就换中文版。

哈哈哈。。。

agent_lithium

楼主在足迹练习英语是要被拍的除非你是版主

lemonteawithice

英文英文英文..... 英文.... (monkey20)

Ritacow

Don't worry. Just ignore them They can't be bothered replying to English threads.

Life is too short for people that makes you mad!


YOLO!

谙旎

如果你说的PLAY DATES是约出来给孩子玩的，那家长能聊就聊，不聊也没什么。一般人都会大概聊下，但是有时候也可能不会使劲聊。重点是孩子玩嘛。但是如果是朋友们的约会，那孩子自己一边玩，和朋友就会一直聊，一直聊，那样。主要看你们的定位。

不过前提是，双方都要感到COMFORTABLE就好。要你不高兴她这样，可以选择直接跟她谈，也可以就少约或者不约。别人有权利做他想做的事情，你也有权利用你想要的方式去应对。

Missy

同意楼上。
虽然有点失礼，楼主不用太往心里去，少约就好。

newstarfish

jodansam 发表于 2014-10-25 14:59
It's not my intention to offend anyone, I don't have Chinese input on my phone, that's why I am us ...

I don't think so. Every phone has the option to choose any major language -English, Chinese, Japanese, Espanol, Arabic, etc.

It's under: Settings -> Language & Input

sas

你这是来练雅思写作的吧。能有6.5

littlemonkey25

小孩子约玩，大人不一定要聊