有人在受到工作上的褒奖时会感觉受之有愧或有压力的么?

七月

上次team meeting的时候，老板突然在大家面前宣布我得了本月部门员工奖，小小的奖励了我150刀购物券，原因是我在没有直接上司监督(我直接上司moved on到一个新岗位去了)的情况下独立工作了几个月。这个小奖励可能兼有感谢和抱歉的含义吧，因为迟迟没找到合适人选担任我的新上司。不知为什么我没觉得高兴，反倒在大家面前挺尴尬的，因为觉得部门里的其他同事都比我有能力，工作也比我辛苦，每天都加班一两小时，而我好像没有很多事情可做，最多有时偶尔stay back一下。

去年底的那次升职加薪以及年度评级为重大贡献，我也觉得莫名其妙，因为实在觉得其他本地同事比我更应该受到嘉奖。比如有个女同事，能力不错，在她的岗位上勤勤恳恳的干了两年半，可就是没挪过窝儿。可能是她级别本来就比我高，再往上升不是那么容易了吧。

反正每次有些什么嘉奖，我最大的感受不是高兴，而是觉得老板这么做是认为我还不够努力，所以鼓励我把潜能发挥到最大限度，因此让我觉得升职加薪的结果无非是今后的压力更大了。比如我知道老板其实是希望我把CFA继续考下去的，并且再考些别的证书以补充我的专业知识，可是我实在懒得再用功了。

也许是我总是幸运遇到比较器重我的老板，顺便感叹一下，男老板真的比女老板好太多，不是因为异性相吸，而是男老板无论专业水平还是领导艺术，的确比 女老板优胜一筹。

我觉得我不想做什么事业女性，可是偏偏被逼着迫不得已的往前走，去实现别人对自己越来越高的期望，真累。

雪梨大猪

楼主加油

DEC

Well done LZ

bulaohu

原帖由 七月 于 2010-5-17 11:25 发表
上次team meeting的时候，老板突然在大家面前宣布我得了本月部门员工奖，小小的奖励了我150刀购物券，原因是我在没有直接上司监督(我直接上司moved on到一个新岗位去了)的情况下独立工作了几个月。这个小奖励可能兼有 ...

You are complicating things too much. Award is award is good. After all, it's just a job!

七月

原帖由 bulaohu 于 2010-5-17 11:45 发表


You are complicating things too much. Award is award is good. After all, it's just a job!

It's easy said than done. I always tell myself 'it's just a job', but considering that you spend 1/3 of your time in the office everyday, and you rely so much on your job to support your food, mortgate etc., your job is not as insignificant as you want it to be.

chychychy

you should be happy coz you r working in a co values its employees

well done!

七月

原帖由 chychychy 于 2010-5-17 11:56 发表
you should be happy coz you r working in a co values its employees

well done!

Ture. I do appreciate it :)

billtheman

CFA很难考LZ很优秀吧

这个就是优秀的人特有的expectation的问题。
试图变得稍微自私一点

chermside

楼主很棒呀

我得到褒奖的时候，从不会觉得愧疚或者有压力。  高高兴兴地拿奖，继续做自己的工作，该干嘛还是干嘛。

楼主提到男老板和女老板的区别，呵呵我不敢苟同，因为我遇到过很有领导艺术的女老板。   男女思维方式不一样，男性思维是直线条，觉得你独立工作值得信任，于是嘉奖你。男老板不会想太多，不会把奖励和给你压力期望联系在一起的。

七月

原帖由 billtheman 于 2010-5-17 12:04 发表
CFA很难考LZ很优秀吧

这个就是优秀的人特有的expectation的问题。
试图变得稍微自私一点

我只考了level one就没动力再考下去了。
其实我的重点是，我们为了谋生而日复一日的承受工作的压力，连升职加薪都好像变成了负担(当然有还是比没有好)，只是身上的担子越来越重，而且一旦背上，就没有退路和尽头，稍微有松懈的念头，比如想换份轻松点的工作，就觉得好像对不起所有的人。

七月

原帖由 chermside 于 2010-5-17 12:11 发表
楼主很棒呀

我得到褒奖的时候，从不会觉得愧疚或者有压力。  高高兴兴地拿奖，继续做自己的工作，该干嘛还是干嘛。

楼主提到男老板和女老板的区别，呵呵我不敢苟同，因为我遇到过很有领导艺术的女老板。   男女 ...

那只能证明你有这个能力和自信，觉得自己完全可以负得起重望，而我的压力就来自于我知道自己不够胜任

chermside

原帖由 七月 于 2010-5-17 12:16 发表


那只能证明你有这个能力和自信，觉得自己完全可以负得起重望，而我的压力就来自于我知道自己不够胜任

说不定你可以胜任呢？为啥没信心呢？:)

给你嘉奖 并不一定 =  对你有重望。  别想太多啦。 先把这150元购物券挥霍掉，你就没有愧疚感了

bulaohu

原帖由 七月 于 2010-5-17 11:50 发表


It's easy said than done. I always tell myself 'it's just a job', but considering that you spend 1/3 of your time in the office everyday, and you rely so much on your job to support your food, mor ...

True, but there are thousands of jobs that you can do out there. Having a job is very important as a principle, but if you put the same weight on "a particular job", your stress level will only go up and up.

Maybe your anxieties about receiving awards is reflecting your stress level here.

bulaohu

Hmm, I sound a bit harsh & argumentative with my previous posts. Congratulations, btw ;)

floraz

Well Done
怎么每次老板表扬我都没有给我购物券呢……

如果确实自己努力了，就欣然接受
如果还有同事的功劳，就acknowlege一下
除非功劳不在你，否则你应该认为you deserve it
不要给自己太大压力

gifox

150块就有压力了? 如果老板有天要升楼主不就抑郁了么?
放松些, 嘉奖是对你工作的肯定.

gifox

原帖由 floraz 于 2010-5-17 14:08 发表
怎么每次老板表扬我都没有给我购物券呢……

我也因为这事情压力很大.估计拿2个压力就少一些了.

七月

原帖由 gifox 于 2010-5-17 14:58 发表
150块就有压力了? 如果老板有天要升楼主不就抑郁了么?
放松些, 嘉奖是对你工作的肯定.

Thanks for the comments but the point is not the $150, the promotion and pay rise or whatever. It's about appreciation for other's approval and meeting other's expectation

七月

原帖由 bulaohu 于 2010-5-17 14:02 发表


True, but there are thousands of jobs that you can do out there. Having a job is very important as a principle, but if you put the same weight on "a particular job", your stress level will only go ...

Maybe i do get excessive stress about this, whichi is something i should reflect on.:)

JuJu

I like what Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola) said in one of his inspirational speeches:

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them work, family, health, friends and spirit. The four balls, family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass, If you drop one of these balls, they will be irrevocably damaged or even shattered.  But  work is a rubber ball, If you drop it, it will bounce back.

七月

原帖由 JuJu 于 2010-5-17 16:06 发表
I like what Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola) said in one of his inspirational speeches:

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them work, family, health, fri ...

Let's listen to the poem but face the music.

diana999

你没事吧, 老板天天骂你, 你就开心了?
想太多了. 别人没升职,自然有她的原因.

七月

原帖由 diana999 于 2010-5-18 09:13 发表
你没事吧, 老板天天骂你, 你就开心了?
想太多了. 别人没升职,自然有她的原因.

You didn't get the point. Just because I am concious about whether I deserve the award doesn't follow that I enjoy being tortured.

radar

这里的鬼佬天天都wonderful, perfect的夸别人，你以为他真的认为你是perfect？我每天混时间迟到早退，我的老板也是天天夸我great，这只不过是个鼓励和留住员工的小伎俩，不必当真。

七月

原帖由 radar 于 2010-5-18 10:37 发表
这里的鬼佬天天都wonderful, perfect的夸别人，你以为他真的认为你是perfect？我每天混时间迟到早退，我的老板也是天天夸我great，这只不过是个鼓励和留住员工的小伎俩，不必当真。

It could be true but it's not an excuse for not having to take your job seriously and take everything for granted.
I would rather look at the bright side. Think about it, a mean boss can't even be bother to offer such little token of appreciation. In a sense I am lucky and this is when the stress comes in.

radar

原帖由 七月 于 2010-5-18 11:08 发表


It could be true but it's not an excuse for not having to take your job seriously and take everything for granted.
I would rather look at the bright side. Think about it, a mean boss can't even  ...

Sure, of course you can think so.
But don't forget the other side of boss, as an old man with over 15 years' working experience, I'm sure I can understand this trick more deeply.

西米露

有这样的老板就偷着乐吧。。。。。

whiskeylullaby

楼主遇到好老板了。