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上周精英放榜，孩子去给原来的小朋友庆祝，人家问她中学是什么样的，有什么建议，我立马耳朵竖起来，结果听到她说，School days will be much busier. There will be much more homework. There are also so many tempting activities, and you will have friends in every activity. They all tell you how fun it is, but always do what you want to do. Try what you want to try. You can say no to your friends and teachers. 突然想起来最近看了一篇文章，里面有这么几段，关于女娃的成长的。为了避免个人理解不同导致歧义，我就不翻译了，括号里的词是我没COPY上下文，所以加进去帮助理解的。 I became aware that schools - the usual ways they are set up - don't meet the needs of many (bright) children very well, and this has been the case for a very long time... I saw that it wasn't as clear whether girls were "suffering" from the way schools work. More boys get into trouble, hated school, and can't wait to get out, while more girls love school, get good grades, and more frequently feel great about themselves, than boys do during the school years...School seem to fit most girls very well. The problem is that many of our girls actually learn to underachieve - learn less than they could （她这里对underachieve的定义很有意思，不是成绩不够好)... (A smart girl) gets to be one of the smartest，(in her younger unchallenged years) best student until she takes ability-grouped classes. Little intellectual competition (during her younger years) can mislead her about her abilities relative to true peers, those with whom she will compete in high school, college, and career. To further add to her difficulties, (during her unchallenged years), she may fill all of her saved time with "running the school". At the time, she may feel quite good about that. Too many of these girls end up thinking they are what they do. And when things get more difficult in her advanced courses in high school and college, she starts to doubt she is smart after all and is often overwhelmed by how much time it takes for studying and schoolwork. She doesn't want to let go of all her activities, those things that everyone admires in her, and she starts to burn the candle at both ends, and - regrettably - she may start to lower her educational and career expectations for herself. On life's journey, intelligent women learn that they must be flexible and adaptable so that they will recognise when their true purpose and passion shows up. All your earlier hard work and training feeds into who you are now. None is wasted even if you have changed careers... 我觉得这篇文章非常客观，同时提到了挑战，努力和对自我的探索，不是为了成绩而学习，不要因为过去的成绩和别人的期望限制自己的发展。 |
