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现在在看一本教育孩子的书，里面很多实例想跟大家分享一下。 做父母，你有没有做到尽力了解孩子的感受，孩子有情绪的时候有没有注意认识到是哪种情绪，有没有疏导？ 孩子除了。。IQ, EQ其实才对他们的成长发展以及日后的人生有着最重要的影响. 教育孩子是门学问，谁说不是呢？ 学会认识情绪，教孩子正确处理情绪是辅助孩子走向成熟健康发展的关键一步。我们自己小时候的教育缺少这一点，所以，现在才更应该补课。 先来一个例子。 你的孩子被选入学校的球队， 兴冲冲的去参加第一次训练。结果被教练告知因为某些原因，他又被选下来了。孩子很沮丧 回来你会是什么反应。 父母A说， you're getting yourself all worked up over nothing. The world isn't going to come to an end because you didn't make some team. Forget about it. B 说， Life isn't always fair, but you have to learn to roll with the punches. C 说， You can't let these things get you down. Try out for another team. D 说， why do you think you were dropped? were the other players better than you? what are you going to do now? E 说， Try to see it from the coach's point of view. He wants to produce a winning team. It must have been tough for him to decide who to keep and who to let go. F 说， Oh, your poor thing. I'm so sorry for you. You tried so hard to make the team, but you just weren't good enough. Now all the other kids know. I'll bet you could just die of embarrassment. G 说， Did you ever consider that the real reason you were cut from the team was that your heart wasn't in your playing? I think that on a subconscious level you didn't want to be on the team, so you messed up on purpose. [ 本帖最后由 蓝月亮 于 2009-9-21 13:45 编辑 ] |
