大学生了，鼓励恋爱？

gwang

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 12:25
你儿子外有赚钱的本领，内有持家的爱好

找女朋友，找老婆，绝对不是问题，

皇上不急，太监急

gwang

tcmum 发表于 2013-4-12 12:24
我对孝敬的理解很简单，有care父母的心。

冬迹之樱

tcmum 发表于 2013-4-12 12:34
介绍时, 先看姑娘父母，否则没下文。

那剩女的父母都要反省了哈

为了姑娘，我得修身养性去， 鸭梨啊

tcmum

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 13:19
要求太多了，更难

孩子的说法是，nice 就好 了

不结分就行

tcmum

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 13:38
做点家务还是力所能及而且应该的，男孩，女孩都做

you are right.

gwang

大桥西 发表于 2013-4-12 12:34
怎样算孝敬父母，和父母住一块？古人云父母在不远离，这样算的话，我们中的大多数是不孝的。 ...

我也是40岁以后才意识到古人的话，往往说得很在理

冬迹之樱

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 12:39
皇上不急，太监急

我们得去研究一下皇上不急的真正原因

gwang

zqmama 发表于 2013-4-12 12:23
I know a girl who's very kind-hearted, gentle, considerate, easy-going, well-mannered, nice temper ...

tha's we are looking for

gwang

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 12:43
我们得去研究一下皇上不急的真正原因

already? or not ready?

冬迹之樱

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 12:49
already? or not ready?

还没呢

胖丫丫

心善，能干，貌却不扬的女孩有点吃亏的。

要么不易找慧眼老公，要么被婆家当免费丫头使唤。

冬迹之樱

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 12:46
tha's we are looking for

are you sure?

那多半是表面的，内心有另一番世界

ZJXZZN

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 12:19
要求太多了，更难

孩子的说法是，nice 就好 了

zqmama

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 12:28
她是不是眼光很高？

通常女孩自身太优秀，对男人的要求自然就高，要降低是很难的 ...

I don't think so.  She's not a fussy, picky or proud person.  Instead, she's one of those simple, innocent and generous type of girls like lots of the kids grown up here, cheerful and sweet.  She has good occupation and stable career, but not really the top elites group like doctors/lawyers.  In fact, she's quite down-to-earth and easily contented in general.  I don't think she's ambitious or expect a lot (either for herself or the other-half).

冬迹之樱

zqmama 发表于 2013-4-12 12:57
I don't think so.  She's not a fussy, picky or proud person.  Instead, she's one of those simple,  ...

看起来确实是被遗忘的珍珠

但是总好奇，这么出色的女孩这么多年没人追吗

gwang

胖丫丫 发表于 2013-4-12 12:52
心善，能干，貌却不扬的女孩有点吃亏的。

要么不易找慧眼老公，要么被婆家当免费丫头使唤。

没有这么严重啦，只要不是要求太高，大部分女孩子不都过得还好？

zqmama

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 12:46
tha's we are looking for

I agree.

gwang

zqmama 发表于 2013-4-12 12:57
I don't think so.  She's not a fussy, picky or proud person.  Instead, she's one of those simple,  ...

By only changing the word 'she' to 'he', it is exactly the portait of my son, too ordinary among the young guys..

Agamemnon

应该开始，晚了好的都被挑走了

gwang

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 13:00
看起来确实是被遗忘的珍珠

但是总好奇，这么出色的女孩这么多年没人追吗 ...

估计相貌一般，又不擅长穿衣打扮。事事低调，内心平静，就虚度了，剩下了

ZJXZZN

就我们家的情况，我觉得女孩不急，男孩要注意。

我和我妹都是高中谈恋爱，当然都是背着父母的，考大学也没耽误，我是没耽误，不知道我妹是否耽误了？

我家唯一男孩，我弟，高中没谈，大学没谈，毕业N年后才谈恋爱，长相，文凭，家庭条件都可以，就是内向，成熟晚，上大学时有两个投怀送抱的，可是我弟根本不理人家。所以，有的男孩，这方面成熟晚，家长要注意。

冬迹之樱

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 13:19
估计相貌一般，又不擅长穿衣打扮。事事低调，内心平静，就虚度了，剩下了  ...

有点可惜

冬迹之樱

ZJXZZN 发表于 2013-4-12 13:22
就我们家的情况，我觉得女孩不急，男孩要注意。

我和我妹都是高中谈恋爱，当然都是背着父母的，考大学也没 ...

这成熟晚， 咋办？

zqmama

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 13:00
看起来确实是被遗忘的珍珠

但是总好奇，这么出色的女孩这么多年没人追吗 ...

She did have bf before.  Well, in our eyes, we feel that she's too good for the guy.  But as I said, she doesn't calculate "points" like we did and she still treat him very nicely.  It didn't work out in the end because she moved to another city.  Anyway, I think that's just a very average guy and nothing looks impressive to me, but she doesn't mind as long as the guy is nice to her.  That's why I believe she won't say no if there are other guys around who are nice to her.  I think she doesn't get to meet many single guy in her life-circle.  Also because of her peaceful nature, she doesn't seem to anxious about being single nor to aggressively looking for a partner purposely.  She simply leaves it to God, I think.

gwang

ZJXZZN 发表于 2013-4-12 13:22
就我们家的情况，我觉得女孩不急，男孩要注意。

我和我妹都是高中谈恋爱，当然都是背着父母的，考大学也没 ...

我们家的感觉有你弟的倾向，成熟晚。

大桥西

tcmum 发表于 2013-4-12 12:36
, but我父母离我很近。

双方的？

大桥西

冬迹之樱 发表于 2013-4-12 12:19
要求太多了，更难

孩子的说法是，nice 就好 了

开明，孩子喜欢最重要

zqmama

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 13:19
估计相貌一般，又不擅长穿衣打扮。事事低调，内心平静，就虚度了，剩下了  ...

You are quite right, but I have to say, she's not extremely pretty, but at least above average.

So does it mean that having a good personality is not the key point of getting a good marriage.  But good-looking, dress up, high profile and is more important?  Are these what the guys are looking for rather than internal charater?

gwang

zqmama 发表于 2013-4-12 13:28
She did have bf before.  Well, in our eyes, we feel that she's too good for the guy.  But as I sai ...

a really nice girl

大桥西

gwang 发表于 2013-4-12 12:43
我也是40岁以后才意识到古人的话，往往说得很在理

是啊，现在和年轻时不一样，知道自己不是万能的，举头三尺有什么神明，就连以前不爱吃的都爱吃了