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深感在激励孩子和尊重孩子意愿之间找到平衡的挑战和困难。在让小朋友训练这件事情上，我尊重孩子不想训练就不干的意愿，并且等到对孩子的挑战的到来，然后再一起克服。然而是否合适呢？买了本书回来看看学习学习《Swimming for Parents》
Reference from: https://www.nunawadingswimmingcl ... /our-people/parents
Swimming for Parents by Gary Barclay
Gary Barclay has written an excellent book for parents of swimmers. More information on the book can be found at Swimming for Parents.
Parenting is the most difficult and challenging job in the world. We need a lot of skills as a parent which no one can really teach us, as every child is an individual and has their own idiosyncrasies. Sometimes, the experience we get at the time is too late.
As parents we are expected to be experts however we are provided with no formal training. Once you have children, you are committed forever. Part of parenting is making mistakes and you can’t beat yourself up about any mistakes you make because you will make some.
A small percentage of parents don’t know any better and treat their child the same way they were treated when they were young. It is all they know. You still see some parents berating their child after a poor performance or talking to their child prior to a race, providing them with race instructions that conflict with the message being provided by the coach. These mixed messages often lead to poor performances. Some parents may over-train their child by making them do additional sessions away from the team or participating in other dryland training that is not part of the formalised program.
These parents are either doing what they think is right, because they don’t know any better or have chosen to increase the pressure on their own child by acting in this way. From my experience an overbearing parent who pushes their child to train and compete without giving thought to the child’s own enjoyment and feelings will end up disappointed because it is most likely that their child will walk away from the sport. In many cases this could have been avoided if the parent had sought assistance or taken notice of feedback provided by the coach or parents around them. Their actions also place considerable pressure on their child.
If you are one of these parents, and deep down you will know it, make the change in your attitude and relieve the pressure now for the sake of your child and their enjoyment in the sport.
If you are struggling in a situation, seek some experienced and well-informed assistance. The coach is often a good port of call, especially if they have had experience with the development of teenagers. Other options may be to talk to the experienced Head Coach, a school teacher or counsellor, or parents of swimmers who may be slightly older and you see as well-balanced.
Being a parent of a swimmer can be a fantastic ride, particularly when your son or daughter is happy with their progress and enjoying their involvement in the sport. It can also be very challenging at times, particularly if you have expectations that your child has not met. |
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8月活动 － 桂花酒酿豆花，荷包蛋 (2010-8-25) 大胃 
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