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BB便秘怎么办? 最后跟贴：Coloxyl oral drops 或者搜索一下论坛，好多这个话题最后发表：fighting010605	dingling 2011-7-23 12:16	1685	fighting010605 2011-7-23 12:19
Moving beyond threats (ages 3 to 4) 最后跟贴：转帖，我觉得很有帮助，贴上来分享一下 Why it happens Sometimes an evil alien invades my body, pushing me to commit regrettable acts. I know this because last week I howled at my son Matthew: "If you don't keep the cedar shavings off the floor, the hamsters will have to go!" This broke his heart. It did nothing to clean up the cedar shavings. Like most parents, when I'm feeling powerless or exasperated, I sometimes pepper my two sons with threats. I picture Matthew's room teeming with hamsters and sawdust, and my frustration erupts in cliches: Clean it up or...or...or else! There's got to be a better way. There is. Although threats may be one of the most frequently used weapons in your discipline arsenal, they're hardly an effective or loving way to spur action or teach responsibility. Yet from time to time, we all fall back on threats, often absurd ones that leave us feeling foolish and the problem unresolved. Getting out of the threat rut isn't easy. There are some creative alternatives, though. When you find yourself tempted to tyrannize, these six strategies may help turn threatening moments into nurturing ones. What to do Give choices. The biggest problem with threats is that they tatter self-esteem and inspire fear or rebellion. "Threats are a message of distrust," says Adele Faber, author of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. "Your child hears, 'You can't be trusted to control yourself, so I'm going to control you.'" Giving choices, on the other hand, puts your preschooler in charge, preventing fruitless and stressful stalemates. Instead of saying, "If you hit me once more, I'll take those drumsticks away," say, "Hey, I don't like having my head hit. So would you rather drum on the steps or on the floor?" Participating in this type of decision-making teaches her to think for herself and to assume responsibility for her actions. Talk to your preschooler and say, "We have a problem. How can we solve it?" That way, the situation becomes you and your preschooler against a problem, instead of you against your preschooler. Julie King of San Francisco frequently involves her 4-year-old son, Asher, in making choices and seeking solutions. She recalls one morning when she was desperate to shower while her younger son, 6-month-old Rashi, napped. But Asher was revved up for a game of catch. After acknowledging her son's desire for a game, King told him that she really needed a shower and then asked him: "What shall we do?' Asher got the point. "I know," he said. "I'll listen to my cassette tapes." The result: Mom got her shower and Asher got to help with a tricky problem. Follow through. Another drawback of using threats is that they're often too extreme or inconvenient and therefore impossible to execute. "If you can't follow through," says St. Louis family therapist Evonne Weinhaus, coauthor of Stop Struggling With Your Child, "you're going to appear spineless, and your kid will trample you." Suppose that night after night your preschooler can't tear herself away from her building blocks to join you for dinner, despite repeated requests. Finally you snap, "If you're late for dinner again, I'm going to throw the blocks away!" Chances are she won't take you seriously, and the nightly struggle will continue unabated. Instead, change your behavior. Calmly say: "It's time to put your blocks away now." Then help her do it. Reverse a threat. Threats have a way of sneaking up on you. Often the words are already out of your mouth before you realize how ridiculous they sound. When this happens, there's nothing wrong with rewinding the tape and trying again, as Katie Ripple of Madison, Wis., discovered in the grocery store one day. Grabbing a kiddy cart the store kept on hand, her 3-year-old, Tom, zoomed down the aisles until his mother had no choice but to anchor him in her cart. "Tom was so angry that he climbed out and went screaming through the store," Ripple says. When she finally caught him, she felt so frustrated that she threatened to make him leave and sit in the car alone. But after a moment, Ripple thought better of her threat. "Tom," she said, "I made a mistake. If you can't follow my rules in the store, I better take you home where someone can watch you while I shop, and I'll give you a chance to try again soon." Ripple's response — to replace a hollow threat with a solution that gave Tom a second chance — was a sensible approach. After all, every parent blows it once in a while. The important thing is to go back and talk about what happened. Use it as a learning opportunity between you and your preschooler. Set clear expectations. Grocery trips are, of course, a classic stress-builder for parents, and threats fill the aisles like soup cans. To avoid this scenario, prepare your preschooler before you head to the store. Tell her how you expect her to behave. Explain, for instance, that you'd like her to sit in the cart while you shop. When you arrive at the store, ask her what you'd like her to do. When she answers, "Sit in the cart," congratulate her on her good memory. This will make her feel like a success and give the shopping trip a positive spin from the get-go. Of course, it doesn't always work that way. You get to the store, and not only does your shopping companion refuse to sit in the cart, but she also throws a full-fledged tantrum. What then? On the way there, when you tell your preschooler how you expect her to behave, also explain what'll happen if she doesn't cooperate. Tell her, "If you sit in the cart, you can pick out the kind of cereal you'd like. If you don't get into the cart, we'll have to wait until you do, and that'll be very boring." If your preschooler still refuses to cooperate, stand firm and invoke the consequence you've talked about. You might say, "Okay, then we can't move from this spot." If you stay calm and confident, sooner or later she'll want to get on with things. Keep cool, think positive. Staying calm and confident might sound like a tall order, but it can make a big difference. One reason threats often fail to control your preschooler is that they whip up emotions rather than defuse them. When Jennifer Chin-Alfers and Jay Alfers of Novi, Mich., used threats to discipline their son Ian, 4, and daughter, Andi, 6, for instance, the friction only got worse. "If I asked them to do something and they didn't do it, I'd start yelling," Jay says. "Or we'd threaten to take away a privilege, like being with friends. But then a lot of the time we wouldn't follow through." Your preschooler is more apt to learn how to behave if you give her constant, positive reinforcement. So consider using a reward system to help her overcome a major challenge. If she's in and out of bed like a jack-in-the-box every evening, for instance, put a star on a special calendar for each night that she stays put. When she's racked up a few stars, reward her with a small toy or a special outing. She may still struggle with sleeping alone, but this method is much more likely to result in success than ranting and raving at her. Reconsider the situation. As we all know, sometimes the best-laid plans fail miserably — and in that case, maybe it's your expectation, not your preschooler's behavior, that's out of line. You may need to examine what you're asking of her. If she's been cooped up all day and really needs a chance to unwind, for instance, it's not a good idea to take her to a restaurant where she has to sit still. So maybe a mother who finds herself in a sea of hamster sawdust needs to rethink the menagerie instead of making threats. Is it possible for my son Matthew to take care of his cat, his rabbit, his turtle, and his eight hamsters without feeling overwhelmed? Well, once we both talked about it, Matthew and I agreed that maybe a pared-down household would be more fun than a grouchy Mama shouting, "Or else!" And if I do threaten now and then, I try to cut myself some slack — after all, every parent goes over the top occasionally. It isn't one or two threats but your everyday approach to your preschooler that matters most. If you're always on a tirade, always critical, you're wasting chances to have gratifying interactions with her. You're faced with many challenges as a parent, but if you handle them gracefully, the majority of your interactions with your child will be positive ones. 最后发表：第一名	第一名 2011-7-23 11:58	0773	第一名 2011-7-23 11:58
多大的宝宝可以去游泳池游泳？最后跟贴：国内游泳池实在太多人不卫生，宝宝太小容易生病最后发表：小猪毛巾鞋	february_syd 2011-3-23 21:53	81315	小猪毛巾鞋 2011-7-23 00:21
打算带宝宝回国，有必要打卡介苗吗？最后跟贴：呃。我们家约了9月5号到皇家儿童医院打，然后9月28号打6个月的常规疫苗这样两个疫苗没有间隔1个月？可以吗？最后发表：coolsunboy	yvonneyiyi 2011-7-17 18:34	264111	coolsunboy 2011-7-23 00:15
求助求助！！！宝宝腰上长了好多红色疙瘩最后跟贴：抹了一层睡觉了，明早看看怎么样最后发表：胭脂扣	胭脂扣 2011-7-22 21:47	101082	胭脂扣 2011-7-23 00:08
新出生的宝宝可以用BOUNCER吗？最后跟贴：我们家宝出了月子，一直在用，要不大人根本没法吃饭。。。最后发表：Mia888	明若晓溪杨 2011-7-22 17:42	101394	Mia888 2011-7-22 23:52
宝宝晚上睡眠的问题最后跟贴：原帖由无翼而飞于 2011-7-22 15:59 发表我把这个情况归咎于最近天气不好，导致宝宝的心情不好哈哈，这个逗。。。宝宝这么小就情绪化了！！！我们家宝100天左右的时候也有一个星期晚上起的很勤，可能是生长快速期吧，一周后慢慢就好了。。。最后发表：Mia888	HLTB 2011-7-21 18:32	121321	Mia888 2011-7-22 23:49
冷藏的千层面有营养吗最后跟贴：偶尔吃吃还行，里面的油盐糖调味料应该都挺超标的吧。。。最后发表：MrsLiang	星湖 2011-7-22 12:27	71095	MrsLiang 2011-7-22 22:51
杯具了-------宝宝第一次收拾房间把遥控器搞丢了（在坚持不懈的寻找2个多小时后终于在某个小包里面找到了）最后跟贴：gxlz啦最后发表：rongerchen ...2	tyxzh 2011-7-20 20:39	331957	rongerchen 2011-7-22 22:51
抢呀抢最后跟贴：婆婆就是很多地方和自己不一样，忍最后发表：findcaiyzh	亲爱的 2011-7-22 10:43	141224	findcaiyzh 2011-7-22 21:05
请教妈妈们湿疹和热疹有什么区别呢？最后跟贴：这里说的湿疹eczema，就包括了热疹（如果我对你说的热疹理解对的话）。干，热，过敏都会引发湿疹。最后发表：zzn	雀之灵 2011-7-22 13:20	31370	zzn 2011-7-22 18:33
先英语后中文的孩子，普通话发音特别怪怎么办啊？最后跟贴：别回来弄得英语里带中国口音普通话里带外国口音那可是2边够不着，我现在担心的就是这个最后发表：豆包妈	lo@syd 2011-7-22 13:41	141184	豆包妈 2011-7-22 18:04
睡了！最后跟贴：这么小不用训吧豆包前2个月就是小恶魔可是过了2个月，某天自己忽然就好了睡眠就好了再等等看，实在不行，过了100天再训吧最后发表：豆包妈	石头 2011-7-13 12:58	101248	豆包妈 2011-7-22 18:02
凌晨Target的战绩最后跟贴：书都很好~ 等我女儿大点, 再给她买最后发表：hlxok ...2	penguin_n88 2011-7-21 11:27	353121	hlxok 2011-7-22 17:50
女儿不肯去cc 最后跟贴：我儿子3岁去cc时一句英文都不会，也是哭了几天，坚持一段时间后，他就适应了。你在家要教会她一些基本单词，也就是渴了，饿了，困了，要上厕所了，不舒服了，剩下就教她跟着别的小朋友做就行了，基本上半年左右就完全适应了。你要转到一个中国小朋友多的cc，他们之间就会说中文，那么上学后你会为她听不懂英文而着急。所以你应该鼓励你女儿主动去找小朋友玩，玩着玩着，英文就会说了，好朋友也渐渐多了，她也就愿意去cc了。最后发表：applew ...2	annie8367 2011-7-22 12:48	302225	applew 2011-7-22 17:37
内神马! 睡眠不需要训练! 最后跟贴：一说起睡眠训练，我想说的话就犹如滔滔江水。说老实话，没经历过水深火热的妈妈是无法体会到那种很desperate的感受。记得老大出生前，我们家楼上住着一户人，有一个小baby，每晚都哭闹，哭了很久才有人抱，我当时就不明白他们的父母为什么这么狠心。后来老大出生了，不是睡得很乖的那种（1岁后才睡整觉），但我们也撑得住所以也没想过要睡眠训练。直到后来7个月大的时候，有一段时间每晚都闹，不停地闹，所以就开始去了解睡眠训练（已经排除了健康问题），也才知道之前楼上那户人其实是在做training。但最后我们还是没有开始training，觉得还是不舍得孩子哭。就这样撑啊撑，让我们撑过去了。到了老二，8周大的时候，情况之恶劣让我们不得不做training。要一直抱着睡，放下就会醒。夜里起来的次数多得数不清，经常会闹得无从入手。同时，因为要抱着睡，所以脖子后面因为经常枕在我们的手臂上而overheat起了热疹。不仅大人辛苦（快撑不住了），小孩子也很辛苦。老大也因此被忽略了，严重影响了家人健康和家庭和睦。所以只能走上睡眠训练的路。我想，论坛上很多妈妈都是到了再也撑不住的境地(精神上和肉体上)和担心孩子的成长健康才会下决心去做训练，也不会因为孩子猫一天狗一天就轻率地决定去做training。至于training的方式，哭多多少少都会involved，但是cry out并不是唯一的方法。决定了训练，并不等于就得狠心地放任孩子在那里哭。许多妈妈否定训练的理由就是因为Cry out的缺点。在犹豫是否该做睡眠训练的妈妈应该多做点research，多了解睡眠训练的方式，综合书本上的知识，别人的经验以及自己的实际情况，到最后还是会work out适合自己的方法，孩子的睡眠也会逐渐改善（即使是缓慢地改善）。如果实在不行了，就应该寻求专业意见，而不是把自己堵在死胡同里。最后发表：janice_xq	maisie2008 2011-7-6 13:59	272171	janice_xq 2011-7-22 17:03
我的洗奶瓶上油脂的小方法最后跟贴：谢谢分享最后发表：如你在远方 ...2	rekinice 2009-9-24 13:11	514118	如你在远方 2011-7-22 14:17
10月宝宝独立走5步最后跟贴：原帖由小越于 2011-7-22 12:29 发表也许运动方面是个天才呢！我有一次看见一个个子很高的洋人牵着儿子在街上走，那孩子雄赳赳、气昂昂的，眼睛还瞪得圆鼓鼓的，一问才知道这孩子还不到9个月。瓦~~这个真心厉害~~估计只有基因能解释得通。最后发表：mcdull122	北湖春晓 2011-7-19 15:06	271410	mcdull122 2011-7-22 13:58
GP说宝宝是湿疹最后跟贴：应该没事吧，我看周围的宝宝们几乎都有湿疹啊～！长大抵抗力强了应该就好了吧～！最多可能是以后是过敏性皮肤最后发表：celine19824	眺望 2011-7-10 00:42	231833	celine19824 2011-7-22 13:54
小胖脸部红疹该怎么治？update 猛擦一天油的效果图- 估计还是有湿疹最后跟贴：小胖的小嘴真红，一看就是营养好啊，呵呵！给宝宝多喝点水管不管用啊，以内养外？最后发表：雀之灵 ...2 3	眺望 2011-7-15 00:10	664195	雀之灵 2011-7-22 13:54
宝宝怎么这么能喝水啊？6个月，母乳，加一点点辅食。最后跟贴：没想到他这么渴的，以前因纯母乳，以为不用加水，偶而用奶瓶喂水，他只会喝几口，好多时候还不喝，他一直不喜欢奶瓶。但他从四个月起脸上总干干的，还起了一块小红疹，小脸总爱红红的。尝试用勺子喂水，发现他能喝很多，米汤也是，喂非流质的就不这么有兴趣了。以前喂米糊不太爱吃，现在调的非常稀就爱吃了。妈妈说宝宝火大。是什么原因呢？最后发表：雀之灵	雀之灵 2011-7-22 13:31	0782	雀之灵 2011-7-22 13:31
4周多的宝宝每天晚上定时抓狂！最后跟贴：昨天翻了书，觉得应该还是colic - 每天定时发作，大概3周多开始。。。。哎，书上都说colic是没有办法的，只能等宝宝3个月。天哪，那不是还有2个月要熬最后发表：yingmu	yingmu 2011-7-21 14:11	101001	yingmu 2011-7-22 13:20
我也来晒晒 Toy Sale 的收获。。。最后跟贴：罚我家L，什么玩具都玩不到一天，现在啥都不给他买了，最后发表：azurechris	blueice79 2011-7-22 00:47	151208	azurechris 2011-7-22 13:16
关于宝宝上CC，语言问题最后跟贴：没事,孩子学习语言比我们想象的快多了. 最后发表：自游自在	redhong 2011-7-21 22:13	101056	自游自在 2011-7-22 13:13
宝宝为什麽总是吓一跳，突然说句话都会，正常吗？最后跟贴：谢谢大家：），那我就放心多了，总想着是不是缺钙啊什么的，是不是算易惊什么的。看来好多小宝宝都这样：）。我家宝宝都6个月了，一直都这样，奶奶老说他胆子怎么这么小呢。最后发表：雀之灵	雀之灵 2011-7-21 16:31	211328	雀之灵 2011-7-22 13:03
大家的宝宝有没有碰到过胃酸逆流这个问题你就别八卦了 - [阅读权限 30]	大飞熊 2011-7-21 22:10	9109	大飞熊 2011-7-22 11:25
宝宝手上起泡，嘴里溃疡，急啊！最后跟贴：学习了最后发表：fighting010605	alan33 2011-7-16 23:38	131330	fighting010605 2011-7-22 11:00
偶家的双满月照最后跟贴：又见黄色小鸭~~喜欢他们家的衣服。长得真不错，拍的也挺好。最后发表：mcdull122	Poweregg 2010-10-9 20:05	252423	mcdull122 2011-7-22 10:56
肠子都悔青了--宝宝刚刚从cot里面掉出来了最后跟贴：2个月宝宝的妈妈学习中最后发表：野小囡 ...2	nicoletear 2011-7-17 16:01	382862	野小囡 2011-7-22 04:50
发泄一下！准备送宝宝去child care了,很不舍,很难过最后跟贴：安慰一下。不过孩子总不能一直呆在身边，适当的放手对彼此都好。他在cc的生活也会比你想象的丰富快乐的。最后发表：GRACE2009 ...2	l_faye 2011-7-18 01:37	333073	GRACE2009 2011-7-22 04:30
急：淘宝上买奶粉好不好最后跟贴：真假难辨啊。最后发表：GRACE2009	lucy-jack 2009-6-9 15:32	211782	GRACE2009 2011-7-22 04:25
5个月的宝宝都可以吃什么水果拉啊？最后跟贴：我们吃过苹果和香蕉。最后发表：GRACE2009	lanlin424 2011-7-19 16:17	9996	GRACE2009 2011-7-22 02:54
宝宝护照相片最后跟贴：还以为lz要秀一秀宝宝的照片呢，好失望哦。最后发表：GRACE2009	沙漠绿洲 2011-7-21 15:20	4818	GRACE2009 2011-7-22 01:32
大家都给孩子用什么牌子的洗面奶？最后跟贴：这么小就用洗面奶，不需要吧，宝宝自身皮肤有种保护油脂。我宝宝从出生到现在16个月从来都没有用过洗面奶和沐浴露最后发表：joylaw	海滩 2011-7-20 13:40	271341	joylaw 2011-7-22 01:31
请教能否用洗碗液清洗奶瓶以及MILTON的使用方式最后跟贴：推荐贝亲的奶瓶专用洗洁精，洗得很干净，而且是纯天然的。那个Milton的我也买过，护士家访的时候告诉我，就用那个兑水将奶瓶泡进去就好了，拿出来不需要再冲水，直接使用，每隔24小时更换一次。我觉得不放心，就一直没用。最后发表：halfhour	gagatu 2011-3-1 09:36	71295	halfhour 2011-7-22 00:49
申请幼儿园，要交注册费吗？最后跟贴：恩，看学校的，我们是交了，而且不退的。。。。最后发表：MEL_BB	wtyboy 2011-7-19 21:44	9981	MEL_BB 2011-7-22 00:00
有在mel的mm月子里找月嫂的吗？最后跟贴：老妈没带过孩子，那就自己学着怎么带，你不可能也像你妈妈那样。。。“没带过孩子”吧。你除了喂奶，其他都交给妈妈做吧。。慢慢地大家都会上手了。。加油！最后发表：平淡如水	平湖秋月 2011-7-21 12:23	4761	平淡如水 2011-7-21 23:20
不听话的阶段啥时候结束？最后跟贴：原帖由 Karen_au 于 2011-7-19 11:53 发表绝对的，你跟她说了这个不对，她做得更起劲，还很enjoy你恼火的样子我现在正在研究小川妈推荐的那本如何跟孩子沟通的书，希望里面的方法能有效阿哪本书，推荐一下最后发表：deer330 ...2 3	飞跑的猪 2011-7-18 11:45	673519	deer330 2011-7-21 22:39
足迹妈妈们----给4个多月的宝宝加辅食了吗？最后跟贴：原帖由 Mellive 于 2011-7-21 17:22 发表水果泥都是自己弄的，还是买超市现成的呢？自己作，煮熟了用blender打碎。最后发表：he88	Mia888 2011-7-18 02:04	231521	he88 2011-7-21 20:40
请问有可以只上半天，付半天的child care或family day care吗最后跟贴：[quote]原帖由 rena2009 于 2011-7-21 13:46 发表最后发表：大米星星	oliviababy 2011-7-19 14:10	241814	大米星星 2011-7-21 20:26