了解孩子才能做到零吼叫。介绍养育孩子的一个百科网站（科学、实用、容易操作）

sxiaoli

http://www.babycenter.com/big-kid

这个网站的内容非常科学实用而且容易操作。有时候对日常生活孩子的行为问题比较头疼的时候，就会及时找到一些解答，譬如孩子difiance (不听话）， backtalk(顶嘴）， bragging(吹牛），sibling rivary, lie,have bad dream, procrastinating, bully等等，五花八门，无所不包。而且年龄分段非常细致，一个年龄段居然有四个的发展阶段。你会了解孩子各个年龄段的心智和情感的发展特点、容易出现的行为问题以及家长应该采取的态度和措施。

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sxiaoli

一年级的女儿上学有时出现丢三落四的情况，我为此惩罚过她。看了这个网站关于6岁孩子的一段话，我才发现自己过于严苛了。

Your life now
A simple way to make mornings go more smoothly is to institute a nightly backpack check. Make sure your child is ready for the next day by looking through his pack together when he comes home from school or before bed. Take out any papers and sort those that need to be signed or returned. Fish out dirty clothes or socks, yesterday's show-and-tell items, stray rocks, or other things that have found their way into the pack. Make sure that any homework has been completed and returned to the pack.
By organizing his pack together, it may eventually become a habit for your child even without your reminders. But don't count on this happening any time soon.] While some kids are eager to keep things orderly and ready to go, many first graders are simply oblivious. Knowing which type you're sending off to school each day will give you a good idea how closely you need to monitor this process

jianan

mark!

梦想成真

thanks

牛油果沙拉

有时真是无语，3岁多的小人突然对我说：I'm not listening to you anymore.

mayflower

牛油果沙拉 发表于 2012-9-24 11:42
有时真是无语，3岁多的小人突然对我说：I'm not listening to you anymore.

这属于鹦鹉学舌吧，说过就忘。不打紧

牛油果沙拉

mayflower 发表于 2012-9-24 11:44
这属于鹦鹉学舌吧，说过就忘。不打紧

谢谢安慰，期待她不要再蹦出什么其他类似的，这句话已经令到我心跳了好几天。

mayflower

牛油果沙拉 发表于 2012-9-24 11:50
谢谢安慰，期待她不要再蹦出什么其他类似的，这句话已经令到我心跳了好几天。 ...

我家的才2岁多，也常常让我心惊肉跳呢。

头天早上我给小孩穿衣服，小孩笑嘻嘻的看着我说：“我喜欢你”

第二天早上也是给他穿衣服，小孩穿了一半忽然皱着眉头说：“我不要你”
我这个心里一惊阿，赶紧问为什么，小孩说：“你老打我，我不要你！”
这才想起来头天晚上，孩子淘气不睡觉，拍了他两下。赶紧给人家赔礼道歉，说以后不打了。


以为完蛋了这就记仇了。不过还好，最近又喜欢我了。

牛油果沙拉

hug hug,教育还真是个大课题啊。

豆狗蛋儿

马克啊

wu4712

谢谢分享

ozvany

这网站还有中文的

mouse006

mark

shiaojin

经常吼叫不正常，零吼叫也不正常。就像是生活，总是欢笑不是生活，总是泪水也不是生活，有欢笑有泪水才是生活。为什么要零吼叫？

maymaydjm

Mark

gongse

Mark

athenaxzj

谢谢分享！很实用的！

ET22

赶紧学习了！

sxiaoli

Shiaojin 朋友说的话很有哲理，生活是充满泪水和欢笑的。为什么要零吼叫？

做过妈妈的人都知道，零吼叫是不太容易的。其实我用这个标题是受一本国内育儿畅销书的启发。这本书叫《零吼叫养出百分之百的好孩子》。该书内容简介如下：
”曾经吼过孩子的父母请注意责骂孩子是没有用的，你得学会让自己冷静，控制好自己，如果能把精力放在控制自己的行为上而不是控制孩子的行为，得到的结果会出乎意料的好，本书主张教养的关键不在孩子，而在父母，本书是一本理念创新的教养指南，适合各种年龄段孩子的父母，本书的内容能减低你教养孩子的焦虑与压力，让你的家庭更和谐，帮你教养出好孩子。“ 英文名字叫screaming free parenting.


请各位把这个零吼叫看作一种境界，我相信每次吼叫过后，妈妈们心里都不会好过。每个人都希望自己能成为和孩子说话如春风细雨般温柔。也许在孩子一岁之内能做到，但是孩子过了三五岁后就很难保持这样的温柔了吧。

我个人不太喜欢虎妈的作品。无法接受她用粗暴的语言去责骂孩子，还自认为是为了孩子好。我们和孩子生活中的摩擦无时不在。孩子成长过程中也在不断探触家长管教的底线。在疲惫失去耐心地，感到自己无力控制局面时，家长很容易对不听话的孩子吼叫，甚至发展到利用语言暴力和身体暴力让孩子妥协。这些行为给年幼的孩子却树立一个不好的榜样。等他们一旦有了不良情绪时，也会用同样的方法来释放和应对。

我觉得面对压力和挫败感，如何学会冷静和有效沟通是一个很重要的社会能力，在亲子关系中，我更看重培养孩子的逆商（resilience)，一个焦虑却控制不了自己情绪的妈妈也许可能培养出一个听话甚至完美主义的好孩子，却很难培养出一个真正自信和快乐的孩子的。澳洲移民家庭的孩子大都面临很大的压力，在奋发图强奔向成功未来的同时，孩子的心理健康也需要格外重视。

hzml2010

学习了

eva_leon

这个可以有

jenny06

mark

飘渺人生

谢谢分享

wyerll

mark

cczz

mark

selfidea

马克

fiona1023

谢谢分享〜
宝贝虽然还小〜
不过留着备用呀〜!

brahmasky

冲着零吼叫进来的

anita510

mark 先. 每次大声说话后真的好后悔啊.....

清风白云

Mark,谢谢分享