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Xxyy1002 发表于 2015-2-9 18:27 
是星期五发生的事情，连他打的哪个小朋友也不知道，老师也没说打了哪个就是让我们回家跟孩子说，在学校不 ...
不要想太多 不要太敏感 ，什么对方家长去其他家长那里宣传你儿子 没必要这么想，就算她去宣传，又怎样？
自己教育好儿子，小学老师其实在学校里也都有教班级孩子行为准则和应对冲突的策略，这都是kindy里的内容。
你google一下的，有不少方法的。
摘抄一段，参考下
Anger Management for Children: 5 Strategies
It is never too soon to teach your child how to control her anger so that it doesn’t control her. Remember, however, that it is difficult for young children to master these strategies. Your child will need your help—and a lot of practice:
1. Stop. If your child is feeling out of control, she should be separated from the person she feels like hurting. She should leave the room. As often happens with children, Sophie and Henry needed a parent to get them to stop.
2. Calm down. Teach your child to use some calming strategies when she feels the physical symptoms of anger. She can try taking deep breaths, drinking a glass of water, distracting herself with a song or a story, or playing alone.
3. Think before you act. Encourage your child to ask herself, “What do I want to happen?” Explain that vengeance and retaliation are not worth acting on. Being understood and making things right are worthwhile. Henry’s scribbling can’t be erased, but Sophie can still show her dad her work and how Henry tried to help.
4. Consider the other person’s feelings. Children can begin to show empathy as young as 3 years old, but they need your help. Try to get her to understand the other person’s point of view, just as she wants her point of view understood. Sophie wanted her birthday card to be perfect. Henry knew his efforts could never live up to hers. See if your child can figure out why the other person doesn’t understand her side. Could she find another way to get her view across more clearly? Can she try to let it go?
5. Look for possible solutions. Help your child see beyond “I hate you and you’re no good.” See if you can find a compromise that both parties can agree on. Apologizing often helps. By this stage maybe Henry could come to understand that he must let Sophie make her own card, and maybe she can help him with his.
When Anger Becomes Aggression
Of course, there will be times when anger turns into a physical melee. Use this as an opportunity to help your child master these aggressive feelings. Here’s what you can do to facilitate anger management for children:
• Stop the action and restore safety. It’s often necessary to isolate the fighters. Reassure both sides that they’ll be safe, and that they can learn to stay in control and protect themselves.
• Set limits. Lay down the law and let children know who’s in charge when they’re out of control: “No hitting, and if you won’t stop it, I will.”
• Follow through with consequences. A child must face the consequences of his actions if he is to learn to stop and think before he acts. “If you can’t be together without hurting each other, then you can’t be together. If you want another chance to play, see if you can remember this.”
• Forgive. Children need to know that their bad behavior hasn’t turned them into bad people. Apologies and making amends help them move from the guilty feelings that come from knowing they were wrong to having hope that they can do better.
教孩子需要耐心，也需要威严。你多和孩子举一些现实例子，教他如何应对。
比如：
老师安排的任务，听不懂老师指令，怎么办
老师安排一个桌子上一起做手工，你想要的工具被别人先拿了怎么办
课间活动的时候，你想玩的游戏，其他小孩都不愿玩，怎么办
你自己包里的东西掉了，或者被人拿了，怎么办？
小朋友间互相tease，让你感觉不悦，怎么办？
看到好朋友被人欺负了，你也想出头逞英雄，怎么办？
做错了事情，比如和小朋友打了，有矛盾了，但是想弥补，怎么办？ （比如这次和另外那个孩子）
他英语不好，那你教他讲啊，这些都是必备英语的。
五岁小孩要学会在集体中生存的，更需要家长循循善诱，语言不好环境不熟什么的，这都不是逃避的借口，我不觉得需要立刻带回国几年这么极端。小朋友之间打了几下，改正就行了阿，有什么难见人的 ？ 到了明天，就继续再找那个家长说，回家问过儿子怎样，他认识到错误了，让儿子再和那个小朋友当场道歉。根本不需要躲闪的。要是对方家长还是很气，但你至少已经拿出了正确的态度。 |
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