妈妈太关注宝宝到底好不好？

joyyao

现在孩子们过敏那么严重都是因为擦得太干净了.

maggie-ralph

赶紧生个老二或老三，就不会太关注宝宝了。

Hugo.

抓大放小

viviancn

前几天才在网上看到说，家里少用具有杀菌作用的洗涤用品，因为用多了容易让细菌产生耐受性。我以前买洗手液都是买anti bacterial那种的 ，看来又进一个误区了。其实，用warm soapy water 洗东西、洗手已经足够了。

lifejoy

流水就能冲走95%以上的细菌和病毒...

   用洗手液和肥皂其实主要是去处油腻. 所以,对孩子来说,一般用自来水洗手就足够了.

uty

以前我婆婆说我们太关注了，原因是大宝用的奶瓶奶嘴我们天天要消毒，我们觉得她讨厌。她说她有个同事家非常有钱，又生了孙子，宝贝得不得了，天天消毒什么的做得很好，结果有一次出门不适应，开始拉肚子一个小时后送医院就挂了。原因是要适当的接受细菌，不能生活在无菌状态。那时候很不认同，甚至抵触。
不过现在呢，老二的奶瓶奶嘴不要说消毒，连开水烫一下都不烫了，直接冷水冲一下，管他干不干净，老公还给它喝过期奶粉呢，一样挺好。
还有就是我老家对门有个奶奶带孙子，她喜欢打牌，每天给他孙子吃冰箱里面的东西（直接拿出来直接吃，从一岁不到就这样），人家一样长得很好。还有就是以前我们小区有个妈妈吸出来的奶直接给宝宝喝，后来奶粉用冷水冲，比我们大宝强壮多了。
所以二宝我只有月子里比较注意，后面....估计要被不少妈妈骂死。
不过我也是听不得宝宝哭，一般都会抱的，但是我还是给它哭哭，一般睡觉前和喂奶的时候抱抱，还有就是傍晚的时候抱，这样我都很累。经常有幻觉它在哭，真的不关注是不可能的，但是我还是告诉自己要尽量粗养。

uty

还有尿布，我们老大屁股嫩，尿不湿用了红屁股，月子里三个人洗尿布，后来用尿布也不停红屁股（估计要到1岁了），给它涂各种cream，没用。
老二呢，根本不管的，月子里打屁都有点屎，用纸巾擦干净，然后垫点纸巾，继续用，月子里屁股有点红，现在那个光滑呀，什么nappy free time，我是根本没时间给它弄。
所以太仔细太关注不仅累自己，也累宝宝。
老大一直陪睡的，两岁多了还是大人陪，老二自己一个人睡，多省心。

qwertyu

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/5877792/Precious-First-
Born-Mothers-admit-they-really-do-favour-first-child.html

Precious first born: mothers admit they really do favour first child

Mothers really do favour their 'precious first borns' over the children they have later, research has found.

Among examples of attention lavished on the 'precious first borns' (PFBs) were tales of how mothers rubbed shampoo into their own eyes before using it on their baby to ensure it wouldn't sting, and pulling their prams backwards for miles to keep the sun off their adored offspring.
Some mother admitted to following in-laws "secret-agent like" and turning impressionable infants away from television screens in cafés.
While they will conscientiously disinfect everything that comes into contact with their PFB and change them up to 150 times a week, their later children have to make do with items licked clean by the dog and stew in their own juices until their parents are ready to deal with them.
The term PFB and its poorer sibling the Neglected Subsequent Children (NSCs) were coined by members of the parenting website Mumsnet.
Among the tales of devotion members reported was one of a mother that used a hairdryer on her baby's bottom after changing her.
"She was chatting to her neighbour and asked if they were ever disturbed by her crying," she said.
"The neighbour assured her they were not, but that they had been woken once or twice by what sounded like a hairdryer."
Another self-obsessed mother turned down an invitation to a friend and her baby's christening party because she thought her own child's "total gorgeousness would show their baby up and make them feel bad".
Another shame-faced member reported how she screamed at her partner and kicked him because he tried to cross the road with their baby in the pram without checking with her if it was safe to do so.
"I then stayed awake all night sobbing about the dreadful trauma of the baby sensing, in his sleep, that his parents had rowed," she added.
Another confirmed the differing hygiene practices used for Child One and Two, saying: "First child, suckable items must be sterilised in Milton or steam after they've dropped on the floor. Second child: items must be wiped over with a clean damp cloth.
"Third child: give them to the dog to lick clean."
Justine Roberts, co-founder of Mumsnet, told the Daily Mail that most mothers would agree they treated the first child differently to later children.
"Precious First Born syndrome is something we can all relate to – most mums will confess to having checked on their sound asleep firstborns several times a night, whilst Neglected Subsequent Children are liable to bawl for an age before we even notice," she said.

myangel

同感，当妈妈的确实是和孩子一起成长的，现在的我和儿子刚出生时当妈妈的感觉已经不一样了。回头看看刚当妈妈的朋友，似乎看到了自己当年的影子:)

vanessa2007

我也忍不住来说两句.
老大在中国出生,由于是第一个,双方父母都很紧张,除了双方父母,还有两个专职保母,所以吃的东西很精细.奶瓶和他专用的餐具都是经过专门的消毒柜消毒.抱他之前一定要洗手,出门也非常讲究和小心,一碰到稍微脏的东西立即用消毒纸擦了一次又一次.
结果呢,他是每个月必到医院报到,而且还住了两次院.体质非常差,吃东西也是挑三捡四,到现在都7岁了,吃饭还是个老大难.

老二在这里出生,什么都要靠自己,也管不了那么多,结果是她身体棒棒,啥都吃,而且从10个月开始自己抓东西吃,到现在20个月可以自己用勺子吃东西,而且什么蔬菜水果都吃,从不挑剔.比同龄人的升高都稍微高一点,别人都不大相信我这个小个子生养了一个这么大的BB.
从16个月开始就知道垃圾要放垃圾筒.老大都7岁了,都还经常乱仍东西,要大人去收拾.

不比不知道,一比吓一跳,都是自己的孩子,咋就差这么远了.说到底,还是父母的问题. 呵呵.

dorin

非常赞同。
我家从不轻手轻脚，该弄什么就弄什么。因为一早好多妈妈同事都提醒我，千万不要太小心，要照旧自己的生活。。。

乐商

self-obsessed mother

这个描述很准确

乐商

原帖由 qwertyu 于 2009-10-12 13:05 发表
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/5877792/Precious-First-
First child, suckable items must be sterilised in Milton or steam after they've dropped on the floor.
Second child: items must be wiped over with a clean damp cloth.
Third child: give them to the dog to lick clean."

哈哈哈哈

cobala

叶多娘改名乐商啦？

乐商

嗯哼

Tasmanzhu

再一次证明，做老大多么的伟大啊。

在我们农村更是啊，做老大的，要当半个保姆或半个妈啊。我得向我弟弟讨账。

Perth-newcomer

我一路看，就一路在想，咱们是新妈，没有经验，未免过分紧张，那为什么很多祖辈比我们更溺爱孩子呢？

pinkscooter

It is called "ge bei qin".

I do not understand why after becoming "grandparents", they start to love children more than they love me.

乐商

祖辈的出发点不一样，对孙辈不象对子女那样有沉重的责任感。只需要让自己沉溺在爱孩子的氛围中即可

新妈妈对孩子不是溺爱，而是过分紧张。这个紧张也包括生怕自己太溺爱孩子的那种紧张。这种紧张在祖辈身上就没有，他们就是为了溺爱而溺爱的

乐商

还有的时候，是为了补偿当年没有尽情地溺爱子女的遗憾

cobala

太太太同意109楼了

dorin

乐商是谁？是美食版第一？那叶多妈呢？